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Video Hold Chopsticks China, How to Hold Chopsticks, Learn Hold Chopsticks

How to Hold Chopsticks - Chinese EtiquetteCLICK HERE: Learn how to Hold Chopsticks - Video

Hold the bowl in your palm, and study this video to learn how to hold chopsticks. The Chinese hold foreigners in high esteem if they can propery hold and use chopsticks.

There is no other way to learn than to practice, so watch, pause, study, and re-watch!

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China Gifts, Chinese Gift Etiquette, Gift Ideas in China, Gift Giving in China, Gift Taboos

chinese_etiquette.gifIt is important to know that gifts are a major part of the Chinese culture. For example, the Chinese would much rather reciprocate a gift with another gift than to send a ‘thank you’ card. When visiting someone in China, especially if you are a guest in their house, it is imperative that you bring a gift (whatever the monetary value) to show respect to the host.

In this article, you will learn about gifts, gift giving, and gift ideas that are appropriate in China, and which gifts are not appropriate (and should be avoided).

Gifts / Gift Etiquette in China
  • Bringing a gift for your friend, relative, business partner, or host is a good idea. Depending on the nature of your visit, your gift may vary. Gifts are an important way to build relationships in China.
  • Chinese are fond of items that are not accessible in China. For example, items that are hand-made, from your country, or both, are highly valued.
  • The Chinese do not usually open gifts when they receive them. You should not open a gift given to you unless they insist.
  • The Chinese will decline a gift two or three times (sometimes even more) before accepting. Do not give up on the first try, but be sensitive to genuine refusals.
  • A proper way to show appreciation for a gift is another gift in return, as opposed to thank you cards.
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Chinese Smoking, Smoking Etiquette in China, Chinese smokers

chinese_etiquette.gifSmoking in China. There are a lot of smokers in China! Especially in Yunnan, where most of the tobacco is grown. Did you know that farmers can make up to 20x as much growing tobacco versus other vegetables? It pays the bills.

It is common to greet someone with a cigarette. Men smoking publicly, women, not so much. Smoking at meals (at a restaurant or in a home) is going to happen. You will be offered cigarettes many times on your trip. There are many types of cigarettes in China. There are even fake cigarettes in China (so if you though “normal” cigarettes were bad, what the hell are they putting in those “fake” ones?!)

This is all to say, there is etiquette on smoking in China, and whether you smoke or not, it might be helpful to know what the smoking etiquette is in China.

How Much do Cigarettes Cost in China

This may be part of the problem. They are cheap. Chinese cigarettes cost as little $0.30 USD per box. If you want to buy the brown box that cost $10.00 USD a box, they have those, too. And they have about 100 varieties in-between. You can even get American cigarettes in China.

Smoking Etiquette in China / The Cigarette Offer
    Smoking Etiquette in China

  • Chinese people (usually men, as women seem to be less public smokers) will offer you a cigarette when they first meet you. You can say, “Wo jie yan le” (wo-jee-ah-yen-lah) which means “I quit smoking,” or you can say, “Wo bu chou yan, xie xie,” (wo boo cho yen, shay shay) which means “I don’t smoke, thanks.” It’s polite to smile and light-heartedly wave off the offer. If they are persistent, keep saying no.
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Buying Things, How to Negotiate, Bargaining in China

chinese_etiquette.gifThis article is aimed at the person who wants to learn how to negotiate in China. The bargaining tips here work, but require a little perseverance. It takes some energy, and some people are not comfortable negotiating with vendors, and would rather spend their energy taking in the sights — if this is you, move on to another article.

Having said that, below are some Chinese bargaining and negotiating techniques that will most likely save you at least 50% on all your purchases in China. This is all from first-hand experience, and again, if you don’t want to dicker, then don’t! There is nothing wrong with paying full price.

There are four types of shoppers in the eyes of a store owner:

  1. A local, who speaks the local dialect (gets the best deal).
  2. A Chinese person from a different city who speaks a different dialect. For example, someone from Beijing visiting Tibet.
  3. A foreigner who lives in China and who can speak fluent Chinese.
  4. A tourist with little or no Chinese skill (gets the worst deal).

As in most countries, tourists pay a premium on goods. The difference in China is that that price fluctuates from person to person based on their appearance, handle of the Chinese language, their accent, sex, skin color, willingness to not be in a hurry, etc.

Most tourists do not feel comfortable bargaining for a variety of reasons:

  • They feel uncomfortable lowering the price when it is already cheap.
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Chinese Table Etiquette: Important Tips, What to Say, Paying the Bill

chinese_etiquette.gifThis section on Chinese table etiquette is a more detailed version than the general Chinese dining article. Here, I will focus on things that may happen while you are at the table in China.

Visual Breakdown of a Table

The image to the right is a view from where you will sit, and the bowls and plates that you will be using. This particular dinner is a Chinese fish hot pot.

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Quickly though, #1 = spicy dipping sauce, #2 = hold food, soup bowl, #3 = don’t touch, #4 = the hot pot or fish dish.Not all Chinese tables are setup this way — if you are not eating hot pot, there is no spicy dipping sauce. Sometimes there is no lazy susan.

Passing Food To Each Other
  • If someone puts a piece of meat in your bowl, you can lightly say, “Bu yong! Bu yong!” (Oh, I don’t need it!) while smiling, but allow them to give it to you after a few tries. By not immediately accepting it, you are being modest and humble. As a general rule in China, you should always decline something given to you at least two or three times before accepting it.
  • If an elder passes you food, say “xie xie” (thank you, roughly pronounced “shay shay”). They are showing you affection and respect by them giving you food. It’s best eat it whatever you are given, if you can.
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Business Trip in China, Doing Business in China, Planning and Scheduling, Making Phone Calls in China

chinese_etiquette.gifThis article focuses on specifics of doing business in China. Throughout the rest of the Complete China Guide you’ll find business tips as well.

Business cards
  • If someone hands you a business card, always take it with two hands.
  • If you hand a business card to someone, make sure the writing faces the person to whom you are giving the card.
  • Do not immediately put the business card away in your coat or wallet, keep it visible and in your hand.
  • If you are seated at a table, keep the business card face up on the table.
Planning / Making Schedules

For the most part, Chinese people are extemporaneous. Things happen on the fly, sometimes without any notice. With the language barrier, a non-native speaker is sure to be confused. “Where are we going?” “What’s happening?” Sometimes friends will call you to go out to dinner with an hour’s notice. Once I actually got a wedding invitation with 30 minutes to spare. Chinese people absolutely love it when other people randomly show up at their door, unannounced. Try to embrace this. It is not meant to be rude and is not considered imposing.

Cell Phones / Phone calls
  • Cell phone etiquette in China is much different than other countries — cell phones get answered (at dinner, at a wedding, while you’re in the middle of a conversation with someone.) If you’re talking to someone and their phone rings, be patient and wait.
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What is Gross to Chinese People (and Vice Versa) - Cultural Differences

chinese_etiquette.gifRead more articles about Chinese Etiquette and Travel Tips here!

Western habits the Chinese consider gross or dirty:

Walking around barefoot, or in your socks. If you’re on a flight from the US to Beijing, don’t lose face by walking around the plane in your socks. Double-gross for doing this outside on the pavement. To the Chinese, this is just appalling.

Setting your bag, purse, or backpack down on the ground. Large pieces of luggage, okay, but not smaller bags. The Chinese think that the ground is dirty, and consider it bad form to put a nice bag on something dirty. Find a chair to put it on if you want to blend.

Eating cheese. A lot of Chinese cringe at the thought of cheese.

Wearing revealing clothing. While Chinese fashion is modern and… interesting, it is rare that a women (or a man) will wear low-cut tops or mini skirts, for example. If you visit China and choose to bring along a more revealing wardrobe, be prepared to get stared at by some men and scowled at by some older women.

Eating too fast. The Chinese are about slow-paced meals. This is when conversations and gatherings take place. Don’t ruin it, or lose your face, by scarfing down your food. Eating while in a hurry is an odd concept for the Chinese.

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